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The 4 best masturbation techniques for better female orgasms

Masturbating is far from taboo in 2022, but are you really getting the most out of your self-gratifying experiences? These female masturbation tips and tricks could take your big O game to the next level.

Published On April 18, 2022
Written by: Jerky

Enhance your sexual pleasure with these masturbation techniques


As the taboos surrounding masturbation and self-pleasure decrease across modern society, many people are still learning to explore their own bodies. Bringing yourself to orgasm can still feel like a challenge for many, especially women.

It’s no secret that the female orgasm has been a somewhat complex subject for years now, and although sexual health has seen some improvement in terms of availability and accuracy, there’s still much to learn and teach to women looking to explore their sexual pleasure. 

Whether you masturbate regularly or are looking to dip your toe into the female orgasm, here are some tips for people with vaginas looking to take their self-pleasuring game to new heights. Are you ready to masturbate better? Trust us, you’ll want to read on - it’s for your own health!


Explore sex toys

Yes, this might feel obvious. But a reluctance to try out new sex toys or even purchase your very first toy to masturbation is a pretty common phenomenon. It can seem so much easier to simply rely on your own fingers! 

Some myths may feed into this hesitance, such as thinking that vibrators or clitoris-stimulating toys can decrease sensitivity or make it harder to experience pleasure without toys. Sex toys may also be intimidating to a woman, especially with such a wide variety available on the market! 

And let’s not forget that masturbation isn’t always a solo activity - mutual masturbation is increasingly popular, and some people might be hesitant to introduce toys into their masturbation routine for fear of insulting their partner. 

But here’s the thing: sex toys aren’t a woman’s enemy - they’re her best friend! Using toys to help you orgasm has many benefits: it can lead to lower stress, higher confidence, and enhanced sexual pleasure. In turn, this could mean better sleep, a boosted immune system, pain relief, and even higher brainpower!

For people with vaginas, sex toys are the perfect gateway to better, more fulfilling orgasms. They can help stimulate both the G-spot and clitoris, which might not be possible for some women without the help of toys. Some even offer vaginal stimulation, which is helpful when you don’t have someone else to provide it for you! 

Sex toys can take the pressure off of working on yourself when masturbating and help nurture stronger sexual health. They are also a great stepping stone to exploring your sexual pleasure, whether you’re a beginner or a seasoned expert. Sure, your fingers are nice, but there are no truly limits when you step out of your comfort zone.

If you’re just starting out with toys, a simple bullet vibrator can be a great way to kick off your collection. Experts are also always available to guide and advise you, so don’t hesitate to pay your nearest sex shop a visit for recommendations. Remember that they’ve seen it all, and there’s nothing to be embarrassed about!

In fact, in 2022, it’s pretty much more common to own a sex toy than not! Have you gotten your hands on your first, second, or third vibrator yet? Your clit will thank you!


Discover new erogenous zones

Are you familiar with female erogenous zones? You might be surprised to find out that some now list up to 31 of these mythical areas, from the scalp to the navel, by way of the sacrum, inner thighs, and even the back of the knee! 

Not all of them are found on the female body - looking at you, prostate - but both men and women share most. 

Exploring erogenous zones you might not have investigated before can be a great way to spice up your alone time and explore your sexuality. Try using simple tools, such as a feather, massager, or hot wax, to stimulate new areas. Don’t neglect the power of your fingers or lube, either! 

Monitor the sensations and see what feels new, whether good or bad. Remember that foreplay is essential when taking care of yourself, too! Don’t rush or pressure yourself to orgasm as quickly as possible. 

Remember that masturbation should be about self-exploration and pleasure, not about the big finish. Making a conscious effort to orgasm could actually stress you out more! Take some time to simply enjoy yourself, and remind yourself that you deserve to pay attention to yourself whether you orgasm or not. 

The sexual response cycle includes four phrases: the excitement, the plateau, the orgasm, and the resolution. When masturbating, focus on drawing out the excitement and plateau phases rather than trying to skip to the third step in the blink of an eye. During the plateau phase specifically, the vagina continues to swell with blood, leading to increased pleasure and stimulation.

So don’t rush! Truly make masturbation part of your sexuality self-care routine. 


Get familiar with different kinds of orgasms

While the female orgasm remains a mystery for many, it’s no secret that women can reach the big O through more than one kind of stimulation. 

While the different kinds of female orgasms are still being researched and explored, the clitoral orgasm and vaginal orgasm are the two types that are generally well-known by most vagina owners. 

However, some might suggest that anal play could lead to orgasm - or assgasm - as could nipple play or the stimulation of other sensitive areas. Exercise-induced orgasms are even a thing! 

Most importantly, the main thing to keep in mind is that everybody is different, and what works for others might not work for you, and vice versa. 

Take your time to research what best fits your body and brings you the most pleasure. Most women don’t orgasm vaginally, but research suggests that it’s something one could work up to! 

So don’t settle for familiarity, and make sure you give other types of sexual pleasure a try. Exploring anal or nipple play, for example, can be a good way to gauge your own limits. You could also try edging - the art of delaying gratification to experience stronger orgasms - or blended orgasms to combine your favorite ways of experiencing pleasure. 

Keep yourself on the edge of your seat - maybe literally - and you’re sure never to get bored of exploring your own body and sexuality. And don’t forget the lube!


Bring in a partner

You might think that the line between mutual masturbation and sex with a partner is blurry, and you’re probably right. But it might be interesting to think of masturbation as part of a healthy sex routine, or even as foreplay, rather than an exclusively solo activity! 

Masturbation is defined as the erotic stimulation of one’s own genitals for sexual pleasure - nowhere in the rules does it say you have to do it alone! 

Joining a partner can be a great way to really kick self-gratification into high gear. Whether in person or from a distance, mutual masturbation is a great way to connect with someone, increase your confidence, and share an intimate moment with your partner. 

In the past couple of years, the concept of online masturbation grew in popularity as people connected online to explore new sexual experiences. On Jerkmate, there’s no denying we’re big fans of the idea! 

Mutual masturbation has numerous benefits, such as being a great way to get out of your comfort zone. Your partner may suggest a technique or position you’ve never tried before or play out a scenario you’ve always dreamed of exploring. It can also take the pressure off of yourself as you focus on your partner, increasing pleasure. 

A second pair of hands can also be a great addition to any of the techniques mentioned above. A partner can help you discover new erogenous zones, try out different toys, or explore what really makes you lose your mind. You can watch porn together, explore each other’s genitals in new ways, share your personal tips and tricks, and more. 

And if you don’t have a partner to meet up with, prefer to stay at home, or simply want to meet someone new without the pressure of a date, live chats and webcam shows can be an easy, simple way to explore mutual masturbation from the comfort of your own house. The models, male or female, know what they’re doing and want nothing more than to help you unwind and discover your own pleasure! 

That’s right, ladies: live cams aren’t only for men, and it’s about time women get in on the fun, too! Are you ready to discover what really hits the spot? Put those hands to good use and connect now!

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